We are excited to share with you the next interview in our “Beyond the Page” series featuring Cherise Hairston.
Conflict can make smart people act out of character. When emotions spike and the stakes feel personal, our thinking narrows, our defenses go up, and “good communication” advice suddenly stops working. We sit down with Cherise Hairston, a veteran conflict resolution professional and transformative mediation practitioner, to unpack what’s really happening inside us during conflict and how coaches can help clients regain clarity without rushing to a fix.
We explore why conflict is often less about the stated issue and more about the internal experience: anger, fear, guilt, disappointment, and the sense that something important has been violated. Cherise explains how this destabilization can leave clients feeling disempowered and reactive, and why the coaching task is to restore a sense of competency, dignity, and choice. We also dig into the neuroscience of conflict, including the threat response that can short-circuit the prefrontal cortex, and what it takes to get “mind, body, heart, and soul” back into alignment.
From there, we move into practical conflict coaching tools: creating a psychologically safe container, slowing the conversation down, and working a simple pathway of awareness, alignment, and action. We talk about “dream justice” the hope for an apology or accountability that may never come and how values-based decisions can help clients move forward even when the conflict is not resolvable. If you coach leaders, teams, families, or anyone navigating high-stakes relationships, this is a grounded guide to coaching through conflict with more skill and less advice-giving.
In this episode, I talk with Cherise about her article published in our March 2026 issue.
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